So Saturday night Mike and I took the girls up the the Utah Home and Garden Expo. While in the car Mike and I were talking about the time change and started debating about the time change. Anyway it was no big deal we were both just talking about what time the girls would be waking up now, not fighting just debating. :) Anyway Katie pipes up from the back seat singing Jordan Sparks, "Why does love have to be a battlefield a battlefield a battlefield." It totally made Mike and I laugh that she knew what that song was about and thought to sing it when she heard us "debating" about dumb time.
One other neat thing while at the expo I got this curling iron for Katie, I curled her hair yesterday, used NO hairspray and guess what her hair was still curled this morning. I just had to touch up a few curls and it looked so cute for today.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Adventures of Kortney Bellea
Kortney will be 2 on June 3rd, boy this girl is a little spitfire. I just wanted to record a few of her adventures lately so that they don't go forgotten. Let's just say I think she senses that things are going to change soon, so she has kept life fun for all. ;)
Her new thing: I was sweeping my kitchen floor and found 6 little felt circles on the floor, next day come in and see Kortney's little eyes peaking over the cupboard door. She was chewing off the little felt circles off of the cupboard doors, now she likes to chew on the doors. Crazy little girl, hopefully we have taught her that is a no no. She recognized those words, No-no a little too well right now.
A few evenings ago Mike took Katie out and I was back in my bathroom. Kortney comes running in with a sopping wet wash cloth saying, "need help, need help." I follow her back into the kitchen and she had got the lemonade out of the fridge got a glass out and tried pouring her own drink. The whole pitcher of lemonade was on the kitchen floor. The cute thing is that she had gone and got her stool out of her bathroom, carried it all the way out to the kitchen sink to get a wash cloth out. After I'm sure a discouraging try, realized the mess was just too big.
A great accomplishment, she is officially off of the bottle. I know so many people say bottles aren't good, but I let my kids keep them till 2. With the baby being born around her birthday, I thought I better do it now before the baby comes. Next month will be the big girl bed and sharing a room with her big sister.
Her new thing: I was sweeping my kitchen floor and found 6 little felt circles on the floor, next day come in and see Kortney's little eyes peaking over the cupboard door. She was chewing off the little felt circles off of the cupboard doors, now she likes to chew on the doors. Crazy little girl, hopefully we have taught her that is a no no. She recognized those words, No-no a little too well right now.
A few evenings ago Mike took Katie out and I was back in my bathroom. Kortney comes running in with a sopping wet wash cloth saying, "need help, need help." I follow her back into the kitchen and she had got the lemonade out of the fridge got a glass out and tried pouring her own drink. The whole pitcher of lemonade was on the kitchen floor. The cute thing is that she had gone and got her stool out of her bathroom, carried it all the way out to the kitchen sink to get a wash cloth out. After I'm sure a discouraging try, realized the mess was just too big.
A great accomplishment, she is officially off of the bottle. I know so many people say bottles aren't good, but I let my kids keep them till 2. With the baby being born around her birthday, I thought I better do it now before the baby comes. Next month will be the big girl bed and sharing a room with her big sister.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Marriage
Marriage has been on my mind lately, when I got married I made a covenant with my Father in Heaven and my husband to love one another, to honor one another, to put one another first, and to always be there for one another for eternity. I guess the reason this has been on my mind so much is because it seems as if we know so many couples that are getting divorces lately.
When is divorce OK?
I know a husband who made a mistake and broke that marriage promise, he is an active LDS man who loves the gospel of Jesus Christ and was unhappy and made a horrible mistake. His wife is a good LDS woman who also loves her Savior, she may have had problems with anger, lying, etc., but she loves her husband. He blames her behavior on his actions. He goes through the repentance process. They get a divorce and leave children in the mix of all this chaos. The wife wants to go to counseling and make things work, the husband gives up and decides on divorce. Is this really the wisest thing? If you understand the atonement of Jesus Christ, you know that through repentance you can look at someone who has made a mistake and love them again. Through counseling one can change their actions on a day to day aspect. It may take a long time, but you have covenanted to always love, honor and cherish this person. If both parties have this common goal, why is divorce an option?
Another example: The husband again made a mistake, he chooses that the guilt of making a mistake is so big that he turns his back on his Father in Heaven. He leaves the church and goes against everything he taught on his mission. Again children are involved, he chooses not to be a part of their lives, (wife and children) and they are now divorced. I see this wife staying so noble, wise and loving, watching over her children. Realizing how wonderful and beautiful she is.
Another example: A husband again (sorry guys out there I do know some women that have been the ones that chose out too) makes a mistake, breaks a temple covenant, again blames wife on her anger, lack of actions, etc. Again children involved. After counseling realizes it was him who made the bad choice. Asks his wife to please forgive him, asks his Father in Heaven for forgvieness, she debates divorce. After much temple attending, fasting and prayer realizes that her husband truly loves the Lord and wants to be whole again. He goes through the repentance process, they both go to counseling, and 5 years later they love each other more than they ever thought possible. They have a growing family, open communication and both have been able to experience the Power of the Atonement, both admit they are FAR from PERFECTION. Kept that promise they made so long ago when they chose to get married and feel that choice was a wise one.
So I guess what I am saying here is how strong is that temple covenant, how much do we understand it when we get sealed for eternity. I sure don't think I was prepared when I got married. I thought my husband would choose to shower me with hugs, kisses, flowers, dates, time, praising words always, etc. At least I had the common goal as my husband and knew through love and support we can return to our Father in Heaven some day. But out of the 3 examples I believe the 2 last are OK. When I see these friends that "fall out of love" and get a divorce, what is that all about? Marriage isn't easy!!! It sure is the most rewarding covenant you make though. To grow with your love, learn with your love, walk through life's challenges with your love, raise children with your love, is one of the most rewarding covenants we make. It isn't always easy, none of us are perfect, so of course life will be challenging, marriage will be challenging. That is why we have our love to help us through and remind us of our Heavenly Father's love and set us straight when we make mistakes. Mike often reminds me I am not the one to judge them, they have their agency. But it has got me thinking what would I do if placed in that situation. I know I can say whatever I believe, but I don't really know unless I have walked in their shoes. I hope I don't offend any of you, I would love to have a discussion on the subject, like I said it is something I have thought about often lately. I would love to understand other views. I know that all of you that read this are not active LDS friends. I would love to hear your thoughts. I don't want to offend any of you.
I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject. I do believe that through the atonement of my Savior I know that I can learn and become a better person as I make mistakes, repent, and change my actions. How grateful I am for my Savior for providing a way for me to return to our Father in Heaven again, as a pure daughter of God.
When is divorce OK?
I know a husband who made a mistake and broke that marriage promise, he is an active LDS man who loves the gospel of Jesus Christ and was unhappy and made a horrible mistake. His wife is a good LDS woman who also loves her Savior, she may have had problems with anger, lying, etc., but she loves her husband. He blames her behavior on his actions. He goes through the repentance process. They get a divorce and leave children in the mix of all this chaos. The wife wants to go to counseling and make things work, the husband gives up and decides on divorce. Is this really the wisest thing? If you understand the atonement of Jesus Christ, you know that through repentance you can look at someone who has made a mistake and love them again. Through counseling one can change their actions on a day to day aspect. It may take a long time, but you have covenanted to always love, honor and cherish this person. If both parties have this common goal, why is divorce an option?
Another example: The husband again made a mistake, he chooses that the guilt of making a mistake is so big that he turns his back on his Father in Heaven. He leaves the church and goes against everything he taught on his mission. Again children are involved, he chooses not to be a part of their lives, (wife and children) and they are now divorced. I see this wife staying so noble, wise and loving, watching over her children. Realizing how wonderful and beautiful she is.
Another example: A husband again (sorry guys out there I do know some women that have been the ones that chose out too) makes a mistake, breaks a temple covenant, again blames wife on her anger, lack of actions, etc. Again children involved. After counseling realizes it was him who made the bad choice. Asks his wife to please forgive him, asks his Father in Heaven for forgvieness, she debates divorce. After much temple attending, fasting and prayer realizes that her husband truly loves the Lord and wants to be whole again. He goes through the repentance process, they both go to counseling, and 5 years later they love each other more than they ever thought possible. They have a growing family, open communication and both have been able to experience the Power of the Atonement, both admit they are FAR from PERFECTION. Kept that promise they made so long ago when they chose to get married and feel that choice was a wise one.
So I guess what I am saying here is how strong is that temple covenant, how much do we understand it when we get sealed for eternity. I sure don't think I was prepared when I got married. I thought my husband would choose to shower me with hugs, kisses, flowers, dates, time, praising words always, etc. At least I had the common goal as my husband and knew through love and support we can return to our Father in Heaven some day. But out of the 3 examples I believe the 2 last are OK. When I see these friends that "fall out of love" and get a divorce, what is that all about? Marriage isn't easy!!! It sure is the most rewarding covenant you make though. To grow with your love, learn with your love, walk through life's challenges with your love, raise children with your love, is one of the most rewarding covenants we make. It isn't always easy, none of us are perfect, so of course life will be challenging, marriage will be challenging. That is why we have our love to help us through and remind us of our Heavenly Father's love and set us straight when we make mistakes. Mike often reminds me I am not the one to judge them, they have their agency. But it has got me thinking what would I do if placed in that situation. I know I can say whatever I believe, but I don't really know unless I have walked in their shoes. I hope I don't offend any of you, I would love to have a discussion on the subject, like I said it is something I have thought about often lately. I would love to understand other views. I know that all of you that read this are not active LDS friends. I would love to hear your thoughts. I don't want to offend any of you.
I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject. I do believe that through the atonement of my Savior I know that I can learn and become a better person as I make mistakes, repent, and change my actions. How grateful I am for my Savior for providing a way for me to return to our Father in Heaven again, as a pure daughter of God.
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